Switch

What does switch mean: a switch is someone who participates in BDSM activities sometimes as a top and other times as a bottom or (in the case of dominance and submission) sometimes as a dominant and other times as a submissive. Partners may switch roles based on mood, desire, or to allow each partner to experience their preferred activity. For example, a switch may be in a relationship with someone of the same primary BDSM orientation (e.g., two dominants), so switching provides each partner with an opportunity to realize his or her BDSM needs.

The act of "switching" may also refer to a spontaneous reversal of roles, initiated by either the bottom or the top.

My previous master and i had talked about it from time to time but i could never really get my head around it, given i always just assumed a Dom was always Dominant and the sub was always submissive. I found it hard to grasp why a Dominant would wish to become submissive, what would he get from that given i assumed that all his pleasure was his control over me, why then would he wish to change roles. I told him that i couldnt assume the role of a Domme in that it wasnt inside of me, i couldnt take that control over from him, i wouldnt know how to dominant him. Needless to say that it never took place between us.

Then i started to read online about about this type of play, i also read about Dominants who liked to dress in womens clothes and be treated as a sub (serving sub) and oh so many other things, and i know this in this lifestyle that really anything goes really but it has really threw me, i just cant get my head around if a guy wishes to be a Dom why then would he want to sub to a sub. i would want my future Dominant to be truely Dominant. (if and when that ever happens)

So i thought i would ask readers if they have found themselves in the same situation and how they coped with it? What would they do if their Dominant asked this of them? and what do other Dominants think of this?

Cumming on Command

I was reading a question on fetlife regarding Cumming on Command and i am quite intrigued by this, wanting to know can this actually be achieved by a Dom and their submissive. You read that Doms say their submissive can do this either by a certain choice of words and no physical contact or certain touches.

As this is something that i have never experienced i was wanting to know if any Doms or subs who read my blog have been trained to do this? Are there any Doms who have successfully trained their subs to do this? Is this a long process to actually train a submissive to cum on command? Have any subs been trained to achieve this? How does it feel to do this without any physical contact? Do you get the same enjoyment?

Again more questions from me!!!..lol. Looking forward to hearing what O/others have to say on this.

Shaven or Unshaven

When i was with my previous Master i had to shave my pubic hair for Him, this was to verify His complete control over me, also this was part of His rules that i had to follow. He would inspect me to ensure that i had done it properly and if i hadnt He would then take the razor and complete the process (and i must admit i loved Him shaving me). To me there is something ritualistic in a Dom shaving His submissive, she is open and exposed to Him, with a steel blade, so there is a huge amount of trust there. The care that He took whilst doing it and the aftercare of rubbing gel into the exposed area to ensure that it is cool and soft which helps of course with itching, all added to the glorious experience and it got quite hot and horny at times...lol.

I know there are other ways of clearing the area of hair e.g. waxing but for me being shaved by Him meant so much more. I loved being shaven, it meant that every part of my body was exposed to Him for His enjoyment to look at, to touch, with my hair to be parted so my neck was exposed to Him as i presented myself each time to Him. The feeling i experienced being shaven and exposed when i wore something as i walked, or when He touched me, tasted me, was heightened greatly. Oh how i miss those times.

Anyhow i know this is the preference for the majority of Doms to have their submissives shaven but i was wanting to ask the question do submissives prefer their Dom shaved or not. Personally i prefer not shaved but trimmed. So i would be interested in hearing what others think and even from Doms (if i may be so bold to ask) do they like to be clean around that area?

Just back

Back again folks was away for a few days and i had the most marvellous time away in the city that never sleeps!!!!, and im still absolutely shattered..lol.

Will get back on track with my blog shortly.

blossom xx